return to Stepford

IHT: Meanwhile: Hot zombie love in the suburbs

[Director Paul] Rudnick noted that the “embedded biology” of romantic fantasies has not changed: “Men want a babe and don’t care about her earning power. Women want a rugged poet or musician with a private jet.”

It will still make a great thriller. But the real chiller is that the evil husbands in the original did not need to murder. They just needed to wait. In the long interval between the two movies, women have turned themselves into Stepford wives.

Found in Rebecca’s Pocket.

can’t improve on this

The Obvious?: Great story

I’ve seen this before but it is worth repeating:

[ A Cherokee elder tells of the battle within himself ]

“My son, it is between two wolves…

One is filled with anger, hatred, envy, sorrow, regret, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego…

The other is filled with joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith…”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which one wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied “the one I feed”.

time to plot my exit trajectory

well, not too long after realizing this job was limited in its upward mobility, I learned today that it’s stability is scarce as well. ah, the joy of working with law school faculty: they’ve consulted the University’s collective bargaining agreement to find out the procedure for removing a tenured (ie, past the probationary period) employee. It’s a very well structured series of “counseling” regimes, from informal to direct, with direct being very closely monitored performance (something akin to time and motion studies, I suppose).

Since this isn’t what I’d call my life’s work and since this has been a uncomfortable fit from the beginning, getting into something else before the completion of the process makes the most sense. I have no illusions about the outcome, and when I consider what the reward would be for completing the process — staying in this position — I’d like to see the second prize.

bet you can’t read this with a straight face, or Total Trick or Treater Awareness

Everything Burns: Amnestia ahora

At one point in the conversation, the following security problem came up: How do you prevent kids from visiting your house twice on Halloween, and double-dipping from the finite cauldron of precious treats? (“Harry Potter! Weren’t you just here? Scram, you Gryffindor scum!”)

Proposed solutions ranged from marking each kid with a paintball gun to attaching RFIDs to the treats you give out. Each of these solutions, while feasible, has its drawbacks (lawsuits, expense, etc.) I think the only reasonable solution will involve a little bit of infrastructure.

Having just read Bruce Schnier’s latest book, Beyond Fear (Worth reading. Can loan or swap), I’ll apply Bruce’s Five-step process for security measure analysis of a National Trick-or-Treater Registry and ID card. This would require all children and young adults to register with a federal agency (The Department of Homeland Defense is a logical choice, here) so that participating households could assign or withhold treats based on whatever criteria they determined suitable.

do we own technology or does it own us?

Horse, Blender, Car, Crockpot: Pick Your Gadgets

Paul Saffo, a director at the Institute for the Future in Menlo Park, Calif., who has studied how societies and individuals adopt technology, pointed out that the Amish were just one of many cultures that made selective use of technologies. The religious communities of Hutterites, Mennonites and American Shakers have all had rules for making decisions about which technologies to let in. The Shakers have been the most austere. In fact, Saffo said, “the Shakers made the Amish look like crazed acquisitive yuppies. The Amish get our attention because they’re in our back yard, in the middle of suburbs filled with people driving Volvos and using VCR’s.”

The Amish, Saffo said, are perhaps the most conspicuous example of the process of negotiation between humans and their hardware. If mainstream American consumers have prohibitions, the restrictions tend to be milder, and they make decisions that are more individual. “The Amish stand out because they make their decisions as an entire community,” Saffo said. “The rest of us make similar decisions every day, but we make them as individuals or at most as a single family.”

I disagree with this view. For one thing the Amish are not in the middle of suburbs anywhere I know of. They’re farmers, for one thing, and they keep their distance from the rest of us.

But more importantly, I think the Amish choose technology as individuals more than we “English” (as they call us) do. They make choices based on practicality and utility rather than marketing or sex appeal.

As noted elsewhere, they use telephones and cars, but only as they need to, and they don’t allow these tools to distract them.

No faceplates or ringtones, no multidisc CD changers or fancy wheel covers for them. A car is a faster buggy and a phone is a way to speak to someone at a distance, no more and no less.

Those individual choices are then reviewed and endorsed or rejected by the community. But the initial assessment is based on utility and practical value, not “can I afford it?” or “is this what all the other kids are carrying?”

I still get raised eyebrows when people discover we only have one television set and we only watch movies (on video or DVD) and baseball on it. We don’t have cable TV or a dish, and what are we missing? While a TiVo and its associated power sounds appealing — timeshifting as a way of breaking the shackles of the program grid is a breakthrough — what is the likelihood I would find time to go back and watch the programs I’ve recorded?

Obviously, I’m not against computers (the room in which I sit has 5, 3 of which are running) but I find that more manageable than an equivalent or smaller number of TVs. I still find The Disappearance of Childhood a good examination of TV’s effects on culture and learning.

As the sign at my kids’ school asks, “are you making good choices?”

keeping faith

meta-douglasp

What really struck me hard was this is likely all that is left for us to remember them.  This one tiny piece of paper is all that remains to tell us they were even here.  This one wilted and tattered sheet that sat unnoticed by an ungrateful ancestor. 

I just discovered what I think is my grandparents’ wedding gift list (my grandmother was not one to omit recording these essential details), and since my father — the link between us — will be here in a few days, I plan to show it to him (I ended up with the box of 100 year-old photographs and oddments that some families have).

Finding it didn’t make me sad: I was glad to find it, as it gives me yet another insight into their lives.

slack (one for the wish list)

Amazon.com: Books: Slack: Getting Past Burnout, Busywork, and the Myth of Total Efficiency

Another entry in the small but growing management library that suggests purposely slowing down and smelling the roses could actually boost productivity in today’s 24/7 world, Tom DeMarco’s Slack stands out because it is aimed at “the infernal busyness of the modern workplace.” DeMarco writes, “Organizations sometimes become obsessed with efficiency and make themselves so busy that responsiveness and net effectiveness suffer.” By intentionally creating downtime, or “slack,” management will find a much-needed opportunity to build a “capacity to change” into an otherwise strained enterprise that will help companies respond more successfully to constantly evolving conditions. Focusing specifically on knowledge workers and the environment in which they toil, DeMarco addresses the corporate stress that results from going full-tilt, and offers remedies he thinks will foster growth instead of stagnation. Slack, he contends, is just the thing to nurture the out-of-box thinking required in the 21st century, and within these pages, he makes a strong case for it. –Howard Rothman

DeMarco writes from experience and is someone whose advice you ignore at your peril.